“Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flames.”
In this magnificent world of six billion plus souls, there are a few people who love us no matter what, get us and our work, and will always see the best who we are and encourage us to express it.
What does this have to do with creativity?
You see, for that handful of people out there who are rooting for us, there are dozens (possibly hundreds or thousands depending upon the size of your social and work spheres) of others who simply don’t care about us, get us, or love us.
There are some who will actively negate or tear down our work and good intentions.
And that’s perfectly OK.
Think of the small circle of people who get you as your soul friends, and those in the other group as the peanut gallery.
Instead of wasting your creative energies trying to convince the peanut gallery of your value and trying to get them to understand you or your vision, turn your undivided attention to your soul friends.
Make creative work for you and your soul friends.
Connect with your soul friends and be generous with your time and attention to their work.
Be curious about what they are doing. Ask them what they are working on, what they are struggling with, what they are doing to heal and grow.
Soul friends are warm toward you, have a box of matches, and are eager to help you spark your ideas, energies, plans.
If you don’t have any friends like this that you are aware of, the first step is to be willing to let go of trying to please the people in your peanut gallery.
Be willing to let go of people whose energy brings you down, who make you feel bad for whatever reason, who are harsh or mean. These are the critics and the nay-sayers.
There are also the ones who get jealous or weird when you have a success (or maybe you don’t feel you can share your success with them, because of how they react).
More subtly, there are the indifferent members of the peanut gallery. Those who never bother to ask you about your work.
Peanut gallery people are cold toward you, ready with a wet blanket to douse your creative fire.
Do you remember playing that warmer vs. colder hide and seek game when you were a kid? It’s like that.
Be willing to invest less in the peanut gallery, and more in your soul friend relationships.
Be willing to protect yourself and your creative energies like you would a small child. Would you let mean or abusive people take care of the baby you?
This creates space for your soul friends to make themselves known.
You will find yourself surrounded by people you love being with, whose company you adore, whose energy inspires you to create, and who inspire you to be more of who you really are.
These are the people who set your life on fire in all of the best possible ways.
Feed each other’s flames.
Everyone needs soul friends, especially people attempting to make something out of nothing but ideas: like artists.
Today’s Journal Prompts:
My creative flames are fanned by…
The people who inspire me most are…
What sets my life on fire…
I will seek out my people here…
Do one, some, all, or none of these prompts, as you wish.
Extra Credit: Reach out to a soul friend today.
For your creative journey…
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What have you got on soul friends vs. the peanut gallery? Share in the comments.